I have been thinking about a specific message of Joyce Meyer a lot lately (I first heard about it about 2 years ago). It has changed my life a lot and I have seen some big differences in my life since then. Last night when I watched Joyce’s program “Enjoying everyday life”, she was talking about change and she used the same scripture again. I thought I share it with you and tell you how it’s impacted my life:
Luke 18:27 (NIV): “27 Jesus replied: What is impossible with men is possible with God.”
Joyce says that one day when she was meditating on this verse she was suddenly struck with the realization that the reverse is also true: It is time to do what I can do, and just leave the part that I cannot do up to God. God has no obligation to do what we can do ourselves.
The first time I saw that message it was applied to health. Joyce said that if you have health problems you should take care of your body – we cannot expect God to heal us if we are not doing our part. You should start eating healthily and exercise regularly. She said that we should stop complaining about what we can’t do and at least start doing what we can do. God does not bless laziness, procrastination or passivity. This message is of course not only applicable to health, but is applicable to anything in your life that needs change or anywhere where you feel you need a miracle.
The first thing that came to mind was my fertility problems. I decided that I was going to watch what I was putting into my mouth and I joined a gym. I cut out sugar almost completely, I stopped drinking all fizzy drinks (that was hard – I’m sure I was addicted), I started reading labels and tried to avoid any food with any artificial additives in it, I tried to avoid greasy foods as much as possible and I started to eat more natural and fresh foods and increased especially vegetables in our diet. It was also spurred on by the fact that my DH has had IBS (or that’s the official diagnosis due to the fact that the doctors and a professor cannot find anything else) for the past +/-15 years. We even went gluten free and lactose free for a while – but that was only to help DH. I started to exercise 3-5 times a week, starting at first with 30 minutes per day and increasing it to 45 minutes and now recently I’m trying to do 60 minutes. In the mean time I have also cut out coffee and I am drinking a lot more water.
At that stage the only other health problem I was really aware of was a sciatic nerve pinching, and causing (I must say extreme) pain in my lower back and down my right leg. I was unable to sit for longer than 10 minutes, standing was a little better but not much and lying down was the best position to be in, but off course it’s impossible from day to day, especially if you take into account that I was in pain for about 11 months. I went to see a chiropractor and the combination of her treatments, together with the stretches she gave me and the exercise I was getting helped to get rid of the pain. But it was a slow process, and one day many months later I realised I was pain free. Please note that I still have to do my stretches regularly otherwise the sciatica is aggravated again – but the last time I had treatment for it was 9 months ago.
I reflected back and suddenly I noticed that other problems I’ve regularly had, have also been sorted out. I used to get vaginal infections about 12 times a year (almost every cycle, sometimes twice in one cycle), I also got UTI infections regularly but about 4-5 times per year, I lived with a headache almost every day and I was almost always very constipated (TMI I know, sorry!). I realized that I haven’t had a cold or flu in a very long time and that I’ve been really healthy since I changed my lifestyle.
The last time I saw my FS (about 3 weeks ago) I was not expecting good news… We had just heard that our FET did not work and to be honest the embryo’s did not look good on ET day. The doctor did not say it in so many words, but I could see it in his and the sister’s eyes. I had nine frozen embryo’s of which almost all were at 8 cells on day 3 when they were frozen. When they defrosted them only 2 survived the thaw, both were 3 cells and one was very fragmented. Later I was told they lost too many cells, and that was not good. I was convinced that we should give up hope and stop with treatments altogether. I was only there to get closure, but then my FS dropped a bomb I did not expect:
He said that he does not think I should give up with IVF. He said that my body’s response to the medication and our embryo’s do not look like a 39 year old women’s usually look like, and that physically I’m much younger than my actual years. Our embryos did not freeze well, so he suggested a low dose IVF in future (also due to the fact that I very easily get polyps from the estrogen in the medication). He said that he can definitely see a baby in my future, he just cannot see when. He is sure that I will get pregnant! He even said I can afford to take some time off and think about it. Can you believe that? At 39? I believe my physical health had a lot to do with it, two years of eating and drinking healthily and exercising regularly. I believe I got a miracle after all!
The closing point that Joyce made was that if you bring your side and do what you can do, then God will do what you cannot do and He might bring that miracle in your live. God might just give you double for your trouble! Isaiah 61:7 (NIV): “ 7Instead of their shame my people will receive a double portion, and instead of disgrace they will rejoice in their inheritance; and so they will inherit a double portion in their land, and everlasting joy will be theirs.” Just look at Job – he lost everything, his family, all his possessions and his health, but in the end God gave him double of what he had before. Job 42:10 (NIV): “10 After Job had prayed for his friends, the LORD made him prosperous again and gave him twice as much as he had before.”