My previous post was about doubts and fears and I described how I asked God to give me a message to help me with it. He immediately gave me a message and I was so thankful. It helped me a lot and I was actually satisfied with the answer. I didn’t expect to get another message about it yesterday in church.
Our minister asked us if we have been waiting for promises from God to come true, and whether we sometimes doubt that it will ever come true. He preached from Genesis 15: 1-12 & 17-21 (NIV): “God’s Covenant With Abram: 1 After this, the word of the LORD came to Abram in a vision: Do not be afraid, Abram. I am your shield, your very great reward. 2 But Abram said, O Sovereign LORD, what can you give me since I remain childless and the one who will inherit my estate is Eliezer of Damascus? 3 And Abram said, You have given me no children; so a servant in my household will be my heir. 4 Then the word of the LORD came to him: This man will not be your heir, but a son coming from your own body will be your heir. 5 He took him outside and said, Look up at the heavens and count the stars— if indeed you can count them. Then he said to him, So shall your offspring be. 6 Abram believed the LORD, and he credited it to him as righteousness. 7 He also said to him, I am the LORD, who brought you out of Ur of the Chaldeans to give you this land to take possession of it. 8 But Abram said, O Sovereign LORD, how can I know that I shall gain possession of it?
9 So the LORD said to him, Bring me a heifer, a goat and a ram, each three years old, along with a dove and a young pigeon. 10 Abram brought all these to him, cut them in two and arranged the halves opposite each other; the birds, however, he did not cut in half. 11 Then birds of prey came down on the carcasses, but Abram drove them away. 12 As the sun was setting, Abram fell into a deep sleep, and a thick and dreadful darkness came over him.
17 When the sun had set and darkness had fallen, a smoking brazier with a blazing torch appeared and passed between the pieces. 18 On that day the LORD made a covenant with Abram and said, To your descendants I give this land, from the river of Egypt to the great river, the Euphrates— 19 the land of the Kenites, Kenizzites, Kadmonites, 20 Hittites, Perizzites, Rephaites, 21 Amorites, Canaanites, Girgashites and Jebusites.”
Our minister said that Abraham was promised a heir and land three times before this specific time and here God promises it again for a fourth time. Yet only 2 verses further Abraham doubts the Lord again. God then went on to make a covenant with Abraham, so that Abraham can believe that it will come true.
In the times that Abraham lived, a covenant was made between individuals just like it is described in the above verses. Animals were cut in half and the 2 halves were put down with a gap in between. The lesser (sometimes the youngest) of the two parties would then walk through that gap and a covenant would be in place. If that person could not keep to the covenant then he would be willing to be cut in half just like the animal was. So a covenant was a serious binding contract in those days. Here God (who is definitely not the lesser party) is willing to make the covenant with Abraham by passing through the animals in the form of a smoking brazier with a blazing torch.
Galatians 3: 6-9 (NIV): “6 Consider Abraham: He believed God, and it was credited to him as righteousness. 7 Understand, then, that those who believe are children of Abraham. 8 The Scripture foresaw that God would justify the Gentiles by faith, and announced the gospel in advance to Abraham: All nations will be blessed through you. 9 So those who have faith are blessed along with Abraham, the man of faith.” Paul says here that everybody that believes in God is a child of Abraham, and because we believe we will be blessed just like Abraham.
Now I must say I’ve never heard a specific promise from God that we will have children. Or that was my initial thought. But then I started to think back to the difficult time after our first failed IVF. In that time I realized that I can do everything possible from my side, and the doctors can do everything medically possible, but if God doesn’t want us to have children he will not put that heartbeat in the embryo, so that it can become a baby. So I asked God to send me to a doctor if or when He thinks I need to continue with treatments again. I asked Him to do it in such a way so that it doesn’t come from any idea from me. I believed that if it was His will I could get pregnant on my own. I believe miracles like that can still happen today!
About 18 months after my failed IVF I was sure I had a UTI one month. I went to see my GP about it, and she tested my urine and there was nothing wrong with my urine – so no UTI, but I was in quite a lot of pain and discomfort. My GP was convinced it was due to my endometriosis, and referred me to a FS again. I went back to the FS that did my first IVF and he said that he was sure I do not have endometriosis, and that he thought I had IBS. The only thing he could find was a polyp in my uterus. I was not happy with his diagnosis and I decided I needed another opinion. That is how I ended up with my current clinic. The new FS did a laparoscopy and found stage 2 endometriosis and removed a polyp. I started with my treatments in earnest again. We have done a laparoscopy, 2 hysteroscopy’s, 3 IUI’s, 2 fresh IVF’s and one FET to date so far in less than a year, all because I believe God sent me back to go for treatments.
I really wanted to give up all treatments after my failed FET. DH and I actually decided that that would be the last. But I got some more hope – the FS said that he truly believes that I should be able to get pregnant; it’s just a matter of time. He told me about a patient of his that only got her baby after 9 IVF’s. He told me that when he worked in Denmark that they gave packages for 6 IVF’s and that the reason they did it like that was because almost all IVF patients got pregnant by the time they did IVF #6. He gave me mostly just good news regarding my body and our embryos. I had also sent a prayer request to Joyce Meyer Ministries as we are partners with them, and they had a dedicated prayer day for their partners on that specific day that we went to see our FS. I saw the good news as an answer to our prayer request. So we decided to try again, even though I was scared and felt like giving up so many times during the last few months.
A few weeks ago I got the book “Super.natural Child.birth” and then I learnt that infertility is not God’s will. Children are his idea and He said to Adam and Eve: “be fruitful and multiply” Gen 1:28. I saw there were many scriptures saying that children are a blessing from God and that God wants to bless His children. It is not His will for his children to be barren or even to have miscarriages.
And finally I got this message yesterday. Do you think it was a coincidence? I do not think so – even the fact that the message had to do with God’s promise to Abraham that he will get a son, even if it seemed impossible, is important to me. I realized God speaks to us in different ways – sometimes it will be through something you read in the Bible, sometimes it will be through messages received from preachers, and sometimes in your heart. I used to think that He needed to speak to me directly in my heart, because I got a message like that regarding a friend’s pregnancy. I was praying for her and her husband one day, as they had 2 miscarriages already and I heard a distinct voice in my heart saying: “Do not worry about them anymore – she is already pregnant and this time she will not miscarry”. About 5 – 6 weeks later she told me she was 9 weeks pregnant. Her little is girl is 8 months old now. She said that God must have spoken to me before she even knew she was pregnant. So I was always hoping that God would give me a message like that about my own pregnancy, but I haven’t had anything like that so far. Now I think that I was not listening, I was looking for my message in the wrong place… I’m taking it as a good sign that I got so many positive messages in the last few weeks.
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